So, if you struggle to find just the right words to say to your wife here’s a pretty good list to start with: Just make sure they apply! Also, elaborate a bit on the point you are making. Below is a link to affirming words you can say to your wife. MARRIAGE MISSIONS SUPPORTIVE NOTE: We can help you a bit with this. However, if all you do is point out her flaws and bad point, your wife will become insecure and bitter. When you praise your wife and convince her of your love in real ways, you have then earned the right to also correct her. A woman blossoms fully in an atmosphere of praise and adoration, but she wilts and dies in the presence of perpetual silence or criticism.Īlthough a man must speak at times some words of correction or displeasure to his wife, these words must come from a source the woman knows is supportive and friendly. A Husband Must Communicate His Admiration and Love for His Wife.Ī woman can never hear too often how pretty she is or how much her husband loves her. True and lasting authority is built, not broken, upon the foundation of sacrificial servanthood. Simply because you have become humble and have committed yourself to meeting your wife’s needs doesn’t mean you lose your authority or manhood. Wouldn’t you do more and sacrifice more for a boss who served you and cared for you sacrificially? Or do you think you would lounge around the workplace while ordering your boss around and abusing him? You simply cannot imagine what a woman will do for her man if he will envelope her in an atmosphere of total security by laying down his selfish ways to meet her needs.Īgain, think about your employer. A Man’s FearsĪ man often fears what his wife will do when he makes himself totally available to meet her needs. You will be pleasantly surprised by how well your wife responds to her new atmosphere of security. Regularly communicate to your wife that you are available and desire to meet her needs. Well, every woman’s dream is to have a husband who will manifest this same attitude. That would be any employed person’s dream. I wonder if there is anything I can provide for you to make your job more enjoyable. Consider what it would be like for a sensitive, caring employer to come up to you tomorrow and say, “You know, I’ve really been thinking about your lately. She is very sensitive to your actions and attitudes for good reason. Your wife’s well-being and prosperity are greatly dependent upon you. If they have a boss who is distracted, overly demanding, or selfish, they lose a sense of security and joy.
If they work for a selfless and generous employer, they feel secure and optimistic. All men want to get the most they can out of employment, and their employer holds the keys. Her situation is similar to the man who has a selfish and greedy boss. Feeling Cared For Is ImportantĪ woman learns to recognize when a man is not really committed to caring for her.
Most men are not preoccupied with trying to “get my wife off my back” and keep her from demanding too much, rather than being totally committed to meeting her needs, regardless of the cost. If she says yes, he can know he is meeting her needs, but if she says no, then he should listen carefully as she explains why not. The best way a husband can determine if he is caring for his wife properly is simply to ask her, “Honey, do you feel like I’m caring for you properly? Do you feel provided for and protected?” A woman can discern instinctively if her husband truly is caring for her properly. She wants to know her husband is tuned in to her needs and concerns. When a woman senses her husband is preoccupied or detached from her in some way, she will immediately feel insecure. He Must Communicate That He Cares for His Wife Above Anyone or Anything Except God. The husband must communicate four things to his wife to satisfy her need for security. A woman needs to know she is safe and well provided for in every aspect.Ī wife’s basic need for security is satisfied by adequate protection and provision given by God through her husband. Whether a woman is growing up with her parents or living with her husband, she has the genuine need to be secure. Security is More Than FinancesĪlthough security is a very broad term and general in meaning, nevertheless, it is a woman’s greatest need. Because security is the most basic need, we will discuss that first.
A woman’s four basic needs are security, affection, open communication, and leadership. This will discuss the four major needs of a woman and the ways they are met.